The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff (Mental Health)

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about self-care in the form of meditation and writing strongly-worded letters. Then they answer listener emails about sexual abuse between children, living with an emotionally abuse parent when you’re an adult, and how to deal with having to work alongside a toxic ex-friend.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:29 Opening Jibber Jabber

9:19 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

14:11 Email #1: Sexual abuse between children

24:49 Email #2: Living with an emotionally abuse parent

40:35 Email #3: How to deal with having to work alongside a toxic ex-friend

55:34 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_97__Opportunity_to_Practice.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:54am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about two debuts: Katharine in New York Neo-Futurists and Sally on the Babes Watch Buffy podcast. Then they answer questions about how to chill with compulsive social media and app checking and how to cope with intense change in a relationship.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:45 Opening Jibber Jabber

19:22 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

24:04 Email #1: How to chill with checking social media

35:24 Email #2: Coping with intense change in a relationship

54:11 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_96__Is_That_All_There_Is_.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a pretty long time. Then they answer emails about negotiating cleanliness standards when you’re living with your partner and the pressure of being a perfect role model queer couple.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:23 Opening Jibber Jabber - Sally has some issues with signs, and Katharine is premiering with the New York Neo-Futurists

18:55 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

23:05 Email #1: Cleanliness when cohabitating with a partner

35:19 Email #2: Being a role model queer couple

57:30 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_95__Katharine_Invented_Time_Stamps.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about sleeping, zoning out, and the Baby Worship Industrial Complex. They answer listener emails about dealing with men when you’ve had toxic ones in your past, dealing with a history of child sexual abuse by a sibling, and how to put content on the internet and deal with criticism.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus and we have some mic problems whilst talking about The Handmaid's Tale

5:28 MIC PROBLEMS ARE FIXED, Handmaid's Tale talk continued, and Opening Jibber Jabber

12:59 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

17:14 Email #1: How to move forward after painful experiences with men

42:30 Email #2: Navigating adult family dynamics after childhood sexual abuse from a sibling

1:00:12 Email #3: How to bare your soul on the internet

1:16:10 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_94__Sleepy_Weather.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk quite a bit about the death of pets. :( Then they answer questions about dealing with a partner who’s financially supporting their twin, feeling you have no friends, and having to spend a summer in the same town as your abusive ex partner.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:03 Opening Jibber Jabber: Kate has a story about storytelling, Sally has a book recommendation that may cause some pearl-clutching. Oh, and an important peanut butter announcement

14:05 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

20:13 Email #1: What to do when your partner has not-so-healthy family ties

28:01 Email #2: New friend-circle woes

37:38 Email #3: Surviving a summer at home avoiding an abusive ex

51:43 Song Of The Week - Kate's pick

Direct download: Episode_93__Barren_Emotional_Hellscape.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally share rad updates about their own lives. Then they read listener emails about mental health issues in relationships, whether you can love someone else if you don't love yourself, and how to deal with toxic friends and whether it's ever OK to tell a friend how you really feel about their partner.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 
 
4:40 Opening Jibber Jabber: Kate's fly update (which includes the most beautiful prose about cluster flies ever written and an impromptu haiku), and don't worry, Sally is going to be OK (hint: melatonin and a new hairstylist)
 
10:48 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)
 
12:52 Listener feedback: A thank you from a listener
 
16:40 Email #1: Worrying about how to negotiate mental health issues in a romantic relationship
 
32:34 Email #2: Dealing with a challenging group of friends who don't like your partner (and are pretty vocal about it)
 
1:00:48 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick
Direct download: Episode_92__Tuck_and_Roll_Away_From_Your_Toxic_Friends.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about flies, magic, and video games. Then they answer listener emails about being a woman who works in tech bro hell, whether you should throw away an object that’s become problematic, and whether it’s a red flag that a hookup kinda maybe hid their age from you.

Direct download: Episode_91__Kates_Morning_Seduction_Voice_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:01am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about nightmares and sleep. Then they answer listener emails about white dudes trying to create safe space, identifying as a feminist as a trans man, dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault, helping too much, and depression and anxiety.

Direct download: Episode_90__Fount_of_Sagely_Wisdom.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about dudes who violate your personal space and drinking water as self-care. Then they answer listener emails about repairing a strained friendship, mental health-related money troubles, and how to deal when you learn of allegations about a guy you considered a hero.

Direct download: Episode_89__We_Almost_Sistine_Chapeled.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this special snowstorm episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about magicians, new iPhones, and phone dates with besties. Then they answer listener emails about toxic workplaces, reaching out to your biological dad’s family, and when’s a good time to go to therapy and open up the Pandora’s Box of ~feelings~.

Direct download: Episode_88__Don_t_Be_Afraid_of_Anger.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about male feminists and dealing with allegations of abuse in progressive communities. Then they answer emails about being a 30-something divorced woman and loving it, and what to do when you and your live-in partner might not be super compatible when it comes to household stuff.

Direct download: Episode_87__What_Sally_Said___What_Katharine_Said.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 1:10am EDT

On this short episode Kate and Sally have a quick heads up to listeners, and then they jibber jabber about Kate’s childhood stardom, A Few Good Men (THE MOVIE), and answer a letter about dealing with moving stress and a short-term but still toxic work environment.

Direct download: Episode_86__This_Is_Norway.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:38am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about thigh-mashing, choosing self-care when you need a break from being political for just a hot second, and Garfield. Then they answer emails about coping with sexual assault and friends who aren’t supporting you, how to make a huge life decision that affects your whole family, and how to tell when it’s time to see a new therapist.

Direct download: Episode_85__Check_Your_Compass.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extra long time. Then they answer emails about how to figure out your next move when your art career doesn’t seem to pan out and what to do when an abusive ex is still in your group of friends.

Direct download: Episode_84__Countess_Katharine_and_Princess_Diamond.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about accidental and intentional self-care. Then they answer emails about how to advance professionally in an unfriendly workplace, what to do when you want your partner to be way more out, and how to deal with super obnoxious people on dating sites.

Direct download: Episode_83__Phone_a_Friend_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the state of the US right now and how to stay engaged while taking care of yourself. Then they answer emails about how to bring up ~sex stuff~ with a prospective partner, how to cope when the shit hits the fan all at once, and the best ways to support a loved one who miiiiight be struggling with how to reconcile their sexuality with their religion.

Direct download: Episode_82__Sinceriously.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:41am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about leveling up their self-care. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you find out that a friend is pretty much a creep and how to deal with the realization that you have codependent tendencies.

Direct download: Episode_81__Hierarchy_of_Creeps.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the weather and revisit the topic of couples massages. Then they answer listener emails about coming out as bisexual to your partner and dealing with self-destructive parents.

Direct download: Episode_80__The_Struggle_Bus_Backwards.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally are joined by the one and only Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel), co-host of awesome progressive political podcast Radio Dispatch. Kate, Sally, and Molly discuss couples massages, new year’s resolutions, and Sex and the City. Then they answer listener emails about dating while vegan and dealing with a rage-prone roommate.

Direct download: Episode_79__Bacon_Bros.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about sick beds and sick presents. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with gaslighting and manipulative people and how to cope with depression.

Direct download: Episode_78__50_50_Adorable_Terrifying.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Christmas trees and out of office days. Then they answer listener emails about trigger warnings, how to know if your therapist is on your political wavelength, starting meds, and possibly initiating a long distance relationship with a friend.

 
Direct download: Episode_77__Ghosting_But_Telling_You.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about amazing live performances and hot chocolate candles. Then they answer listener emails about marriage troubles and libido mismatch.

Direct download: Episode__76_RUFKM.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:23am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally debrief about how their Thanksgivings went. Then they answer listener emails about how to maybe cut off an emotionally abusive dad and keeping your morale up during an endless job search.

 
Direct download: Episode_75__Emotional_Backpocket.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 2:10am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk even more about talking about the election. Then they answer listener emails about how to handle spending the holidays with your family when you’re expecting some ~static~.

Direct download: Episode_74__We_Keep_Going.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 12:01am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk a bunch about current events and related topics (and feelings). Then they answer listener emails about how to argue with a bigot and how to live with your ex.

Direct download: Episode_73__Lots_of_Feelings_Lots_of_Opinions.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this special short episode Kate and Sally wax nervous but optimistic on the election and self-care. (Many apologies for the "crackling noise" on Kate's end. Unless you liked it in which case YOU'RE WELCOME.)

Direct download: Episode_72__Election_Ballyhoo.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:57am EDT

On this episode: Gremlins (the movie and the IMDB page), the greatness of Phoebe Cates, plus listener emails about dealing with brain fog and how to cope with feelings of extreme jealousy.

Direct download: Episode_71___Make_Three_Discoveries.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:12am EDT

On this episode: Taking care of your body-ody-ody with p.t. and massage, salvaging a friendship that’s been through it, and how to deal with life stress when 2016 feels like the worst year ever. Also, exciting news about how to support TSB!

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Direct download: Episode_70.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:50am EDT

Episode 69: Killer Metaphors

On this episode: Extended jibber jabber on the debate and related topics (sorry), plus listener emails about living with an ex and supporting a non-binary partner with an eating disorder.

Direct download: Episode_69__Killer_Metaphors.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode: The mind body connection and misogyny in comedy. Plus listener emails about weird energy between friends who might like-like each other and how to deal with missing your old therapist so much.

Direct download: Episode_68__Thank_you_Dr._Zizmor.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:05am EDT

On this episode: Taking a day off of work, cycling in Manhattan, awesome therapists, and why light roast coffee is trash. Plus listener emails about whether you should give up on your dreams and how to trust when you have a history of sexual assault and dudes betraying your trust.

Direct download: Episode_67__Pure_Imagination_1.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode: Fear and loathing re: the state of the world. Plus listener emails about: friends who don’t seem to get what you’re going through mental health-wise and parenting your partner’s kid.

Direct download: _Episode_66__Put_All_Your_Feelings_Into_Me.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:56am EDT

On this episode: Extra long and rambling jibber jabber, plus listener emails about setting boundaries with parents, people who mistreat service personnel, and healing from/processing rape.

Direct download: Episode_65__There_Go_All_My_F_ks.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode: Coming out as non-binary, porn and feminism, and patching things up with a friend who might be emotionally unstable.

Direct download: Episode_64__Queer_Reading_Club.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode: late bloomers, work stress and processing PTSD, caring for traumatized kids, and creating emotional distance from a toxic parent. 

Direct download: Episode_63__Springsteening.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 12:34pm EDT

Episode 62: AOL Dot Chat

On this episode: Dancing and not dancing, therapy dogs, inconsiderate partners, being triggered by a co-worker’s shenanigans, and awkward situations with a former friend.

Direct download: Episode_62__AOL_Dot_Chat.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 9:13am EDT

On this episode: Patriarchy in comedy (and also everywhere), recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship, wtf is talent anyway, and feeling torn between multiple career/life paths.

Direct download: Episode_61__Patriarchy___Comedy___Burn_It_Down.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 12:58am EDT

On this episode: the “friend zone” (LOL), parents are (sometimes awful) people, too, being friends with someone you want to date, your friend’s terrible partner, and a toxic ex who demands closure.

Direct download: Episode_60__Reconnoiter.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally answer listener emails about sexual assault, sex drive mismatch, and dating with depression.

Direct download: Episode_59__Just_Asking_Questions_3.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:11am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about dealing with an unreliable friend who lies a lot, handling the end of a long relationship, and dealing with a difficult dad.

Direct download: Episode_58__The_Adventures_of_Loopy_and_Peanut_Butter.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:18am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about dealing with disrespectful relatives, whether you should intervene in a workplace outing, and body image/self-love. 

Direct download: Episode_57__Take_What_You_Need.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about how to respond to a friend’s declaration of love/attraction, and staying in touch with siblings who live with the parents you’re no longer talking to.

Direct download: Episode_56__Pluto_Truther_1.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about listener-suggested topics including: dog park adventures, living in NYC, dealing with breakups, performative allyship, happy life moments, and more!

Direct download: Episode_55__BONUS_EPISODE_Celebrities__Dogs_and_Celebrity_Dogs.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 3:01pm EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: recovering from the suicide of a loved one, figuring out if that flirtatious person likes you, and what to do when your co-workers are the worst.

Direct download: Episode_54__Well_Let_Me_Ask_You_This.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Orlando, allyship, and Pride. Then they answer listener emails about: stress management when you hate your job and are looking for a new one, figuring out your gender identity, and how to deal with feeling like a failure in your career.

Direct download: Episode_53__Drapering.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about all kindsa stuff listeners asked us to discuss: age differences in relationships, emotional vampires, how the hell to have a healthy relationship, setting boundaries, and also a buncha stuff about themselves!

Direct download: Episode_52__Know_When_To_Edit_The_Scene_Grab_Bag_Bonus_Episode.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: coming out and whether you even "have to,” what to do when you’re not sexually attracted to your partner, and how to deal with feeling isolated and longing for intimacy and connection.

Direct download: Episode_51__Dip_Your_Toe_In_It.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:08am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about an age difference in a relationship, the importance of supportive friends in the aftermath of abuse, and what to do about therapyfail after therapyfail.

Direct download: Episode_50__A_Heap_of_Flaming_Garbage.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:12am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about body positivity, life and job anxiety, and helping a partner find a therapist.

Direct download: Episode_49__Step_Dave.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:58am EDT