The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Christmas and whether Santa Claus is real, and if so does he have a master key to your apartment? Then they talk about comedian Josh Gondelman’s (@joshgondelman) essay for The Cut about how being in a relationship means your partner’s enemies become your enemies. They also discuss Native comedian Joey Clift’s (@joeytainment) essay for the AV Club about confronting two white podcast hosts on air about tokenization (and much more). Finally they answer a listener email about how to talk to a parent who is skeptical of using meds long term for mental health.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:12 Opening Jibber Jabber

37:09 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

39:10 Email: How to talk to a parent who is skeptical of using meds long term for mental health

52:18 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_173__Mr._Children_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:26am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about some bad stuff on Twitter as well as some good stuff on Twitter. Then they discuss performative male anger, jogging, and getting new glasses. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who is trying to figure out how to navigate a relationship with a parent in the aftermath of trauma.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:26 Opening Jibber Jabber

34:33 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:36 Email: Figuring out how to navigate a relationship with a parent in the aftermath of trauma

54:34 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_172__Get_it_Together_Doug.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally don’t get to an email. But they DO talk about boomers and “cancel culture.” They talk about Schitt’s Creek, Succession, and how Katharine canceled two white boys on the subway. And much more!

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:22 Opening Jibber Jabber 

46:01 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

54:45 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_171__Kat_Harington.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how the 2020 election is a life ruiner. Then they discuss dancing with Sarah Michelle Gellar, going to the fucking dentist, and much more. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who wants to go to church without being reminded of their abusive ex. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:16 Opening Jibber Jabber (TW: 31:09 - 32:51 talk about sexual assault, Brock Turner)

32:54 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:35 Email: Wanting to go to church without being reminded of your abusive ex

50:02 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_170__Buffy_Summers_Vision_Board.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about impeachment, comedians who aren’t funny, the TV show GLOW, and hot water. Then they answer an email from a listener who is worried that the friend they’re in love with is ghosting them forever.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:12 Opening Jibber Jabber

33:17 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:35 Email: When a friend you're in love with might be ghosting you forever

57:23 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_169__A_Puppy_Eating_Spaghetti_With_an_Emu.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about comedians who think they’re pushing boundaries, Stranger Things, and how you’re not alone if Kavanaugh has you feeling stressedavanaugh. Then they answer a listener’s question about how to take care of yourself while being a good and effective social justice warrior. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:55 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: talk of Brett Kavanaugh)

22:29 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:20 Email: How to take care of yourself while being a good and effective social justice warrior

52:00 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_168__Gynecologist_Spaghetti_Western_Gun.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber a LOT. They talk about how spies are generally really hot and what it’s like to get a standing ovation from a dog. They also talk about therapy, easy breezy gratitude practices, and one-minute meditations. Then they answer an email from a listener who wants advice about how to deal with having a homophobic dad.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:26 Opening Jibber Jabber 

37:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

43:07 Email: How to deal with having a homophobic dad

57:38 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_167__Hot_Spies.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:06am EST

On this episode, Kate talks about raging in therapy and Sally talks about ruthlessly managing her social life. They talk in detail about the Al Franken story in the New Yorker and the very good reactions that it has spawned. Then they answer an email from a listener who is looking for advice on how to deal with their strained relationship with their dad.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:01 Opening Jibber Jabber

42:30 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

47:21 Email: Looking for advice on how to deal with a strained relationship with a parent

1:09:28 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_166__Know_Your_Seasons.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate tells a story about how sometimes you just need to hear the truth and Sally talks about being tested by god. They also talk about asking for help when you need it and doing housework as self-care. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who feels broke and broken and stuck in their job.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:40 Opening Jibber Jabber

26:06 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

29:13 Email: What to do when you feel broke and broken and stuck in a job

57:59 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_165__Not_Enough_Big_Cats.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about J*e B*den, the Tony Awards, and video games. Then they talk about taking Xanax to fly on airplanes. Finally, they answer a listener email about what to do when your job isn’t going well and is dragging you down in general.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:19 Opening Jibber Jabber

49:25 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

52:17 Email: What to do when your job isn’t going well and is dragging you down in general

1:11:56 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_164__Authentic_Nancy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:43am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Moby’s alleged creepiness as a person and also as an instagram user. Then they talk about Game of Thrones and shows about pets that are actually about humans. Finally they answer an email from someone who wants to know how to earn back their partner’s trust.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:07 Opening Jibber Jabber

42:19 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

43:22 Email: Earning back a partner’s trust

1:01:09 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_163__54_American_Years_Old.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:10am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about slaying childhood dragons, being a reactive fan of Game of Thrones, and the nest-building behaviors of house finches. Then they answer an email about whether to cut toxic friends out of your life.

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00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:07 Opening Jibber Jabber

41:52 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

44:33 Email: Whether to cut toxic friends out of your life

1:01:35 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_162__I_m_a_Full_Adult.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:27am EST

 

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Buffy and Game of Thrones fandom. Then they explain how to find a struggle buddy. Sally talks (at length) about being aggrieved by many people. Katharine explains the origin of #strugglepodbuds420. Then they…just keep jibber jabbering. This is the first episode to not feature a an email from a listener seeking advice.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

10:18 Opening Jibber Jabber

37:14 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

45:00 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Read The best $16 I ever spent: Old Navy pajamas after my husband left by Rachel W. Miller: www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/4/25/18512898/rachel-w-miller-best-money-old-navy-pajamas

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Direct download: Episode_161__Mercury_s_in_Mantrograde_1.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:15am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about being tired, using earplugs, meeting celebs we admire, and canceling therapy. Then they answer listener emails about telling a crush you’re crushin’, whether you need to tell your parents everything, and what to do when the person who sexually assaulted you is dating someone else on campus who might now be in danger.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:22 Opening Jibber Jabber

16:00 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

21:55 Email #1: Telling a crush you’re crushin’ and whether you need to tell your parents everything

34:01 Email #2: What to do when the person who sexually assaulted you is dating someone else on campus who might now be in danger

54:48 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_160__Lost_in_the_Shuff.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:32am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Joe Biden’s creepy handsiness, Sally’s birthday, and Katharine’s upcoming show about how we participate in rape culture. Then they answer a letter from a listener writing in about their partner’s weight.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:34 Opening Jibber Jabber

31:43 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:06 Email: (CN: talk about weight, fat bodies, eating disorders) Someone who is upset about their partner’s weight gain

52:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_159__More_Like_No_Biden.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:22am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Theranos, the college admissions scam, the NPR podcast It’s Been a Minute, and the NY Neo-Futurists. They chat about face masks and to-do lists as self-care, and answer a listener email about giving an employer feedback as you’re leaving and how to deal with intrusive thoughts.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:59 Opening Jibber Jabber 

31:53 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:44 Email: Giving an employer feedback as you’re leaving and how to deal with intrusive thoughts

53:55 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_158__Learning_to_Learn.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about their new Patreon, the documentary Leaving Neverland, Luke Perry (RIP), birthdays, and going to the dentist. Then they answer an email from a listener who’s trying to figure out if they should stop going to therapy.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:02 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN 9:55 - 30:06 talk about the Michael Jackson documentary "Leaving Neverland")

34:50 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

37:37 Email: How to know if you should stop going to therapy

55:03 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_157__Tooth_Time_with_Katharine_and_Sally.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about “the magical thinking of guys who love logic” and Ryan Adams (and similar creeps). Then they talk about catching up on sleep and going to the dentist. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who’s trying to make a decision about having another kid. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:50 Opening Jibber Jabber

33:26 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

37:06 Email: Making a decision about having another kid

58:50 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_156__Kids_These_Days.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

 

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about white guys who taunt, Fyre Festival, Rent Live, flying, and coping with flying. Then they answer a listener email about how to let a former friend know they’re not invited to your wedding.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

25:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

31:32 Email: How to let a former friend know they’re not invited to your wedding

49:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_155__Antarctica_Iowa.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about millennial burnout, Louis CK et al, migraines, blood pressure, and going to the doctor. Then they answer a listener email about what to do when your loved one is dating someone you reallllly don’t like.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:20 Programming note! (CN from 1:20 - 5:20 talk about suicidal ideation and self harm)

5:29 Opening Jibber Jabber

30:22 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

33:13 Email: What to do when your loved one is dating someone you reallllly don’t like

56:11 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_154__Bring_in_a_Ringer.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about separating artists from their art, a very smart and sassy parrot, and self-care in the form of stretching and kettlebells. Then they answer an email from a listener asking for advice on whether they should stop going to therapy.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:22 Opening Jibber Jabber

20:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

23:53 Email: Advice on stopping therapy

42:00 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_153__Dont_Worry_About_the_Wolf_in_The_Woods.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:18am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the happy/infuriating binary as it applies to Lena Dunham, Jason Momoa, and using polyamory to manipulate your partner. Then they jibber jabber about learning how to play guitar and setting boundaries with family. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who wants to know what to do about their 5-year relationship with a controlling S.O.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

32:45 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:05 Email: Being in a 5-year relationship with a controlling S.O.

48:54 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_152__Half-Inch_Bangs.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:47am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the holidays, Hot Duck, and video games. Then they read a listener email with very useful feedback and answer a listener email from someone who’s asking for advice coping with their suicidal thoughts.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:00 Opening Jibber Jabber

23:43 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:15 Listener feedback

32:57 Email: Coping with suicidal thoughts

52:08 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_151__Don_t_Feed_Hot_Duck.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:27am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extended period of time and talk about making doctor’s appointments and (not) working out. Then they answer a listener email about feeling abandoned when a therapist doesn’t come back from maternity leave.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:09 Opening Jibber Jabber

23:24 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:07 Email: Feeling abandoned when a therapist doesn’t come back from maternity leave

46:27 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_150__Showing_Up.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the NY Neo-Futurists, Anita Hill, and why we recommend therapy all the ding dang time. Then they answer questions about recovering from a breakup and an emotionally abusive relationship and how to deal with a parent who’s using drugs while feeling like you don’t have a home.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:04 Opening Jibber Jabber

16:37 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:58 Email #1: Recovering from a breakup and an emotionally abusive relationship

37:01 Email #2: How to deal with a parent who’s using drugs while feeling like you don’t have a home

51:10 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_149__The_Speakeasy_of_Podcasts.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about roller coasters, fruit, and dancing. Then they answer listener emails about how to open up to people and living with roommates who aren’t being good friends to you.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:54 Opening Jibber Jabber

18:59 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

30:06 Listener Feedback

33:51 Email #1: How to open up to people

53:23 Email #2: Living with roommates who aren’t being good friends to you

1:15:28 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_148__Don_t_Ride_the_Cyclone_Eat_Fruit_and_Dance.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the New York Neo-Futurists and lesbian fiction. Then they answer listener questions about breakups, feeling alone and isolated, and how to deal when you’re being bullied and/or feel left out.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:30 Opening Jibber Jabber

6:20 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

10:45 Email #1: Breakups

26:33 Email #2: Feeling alone and isolated

38:22 Email #3: How to deal when you’re being bullied and/or feel left out

58:23 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_147__Monster_Cereal.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:10am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a real nice long time. Then they answer listener emails about rebound dating, dealing with panic disorder, and whether to date a friend.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

13:12 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:53 Email #1: Rebound dating

36:49 Email #2: Dealing with panic disorder

1:00:52 Email #3: Whether to date a friend

1:15:58 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 


On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about all the TV and movies they’re watching. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you know you need to open up but feel like you can’t, and the ins and outs of coming out and labeling your sexuality.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:23 Opening Jibber Jabber

10:18  A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

15:26 Listener Update: How To Be A Good Manager (from episode 138)

17:51  Email #1: What to do when you know you need to open up but feel like you can’t

36:38 Email #2: The ins and outs of coming out and labeling your sexuality

55:36 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_145__Financial_Crisis_on_Mushrooms.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 2:48pm EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about phantom earthquakes. Then they answer listener questions about how to know when to bail on trying to make a relationship work, when to tell a new person about your trauma, and how to deal with feeling depressed while living with unsupportive parents.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

7:44 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

9:51  Email #1: How to know when to bail on trying to make a relationship work

26:35 Email #2: When to tell a new person about your trauma

34:13 Email #3: How to deal with feeling depressed while living with unsupportive parents

45:30 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_144__Mistake-Not_Mistake_Binary.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a while about misogyny (of course) and reaching out to friends. Then they answer listener questions about what to do when you feel totally stalled in your career and how to deal with a partner who won’t make time for you.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:20 Opening Jibber Jabber 

22:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:30 Listener feedback

31:24  Email #1: (CN: death of a pet) What to do when you feel totally stalled in your career

46:55 Email #2: How to deal with a partner who won’t make time for you

1:01:09 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_143__Beautiful_Sexy_and_Confident.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, special guest co-host Hilary Asare (@HilaryAsare) and Kate jibber jabber about readjusting sleep schedules and PTSD. Then they answer listener questions about going back to a job with an abusive boss, supporting loved ones without overstepping boundaries and/or getting anxious, and how to get excited for the future when high school sucks.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:52 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN/TW: from 4:35 - 12:56 talk of attack, physical damage, PTSD)

13:01 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:02 Email #1: (CN: abuse/sexual assault/asshole bosses) Going back to a job with an abusive/triggering boss

29:32 Email #2: Supporting loved ones without overstepping boundaries and/or getting anxious

38:52 Email #3: How to get excited for the future when high school sucks

58:50 Song of the Week (Hilary's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_142__Get_Comfortable_With_Being_Uncomfortable.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about what to do with trash men and Rachel Dolezal. Then they answer listener questions about how to break up with a partner and whether to intervene in a situation your partner is going through.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:47 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: at 14:02 talk of Jamie Kilstein)

23:25 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:05 Email #1: How to break up with a partner

40:50 Email #2: Whether to intervene in a situation your partner is going through

53:27 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_141__Standing_on_the_Shoulder_of_Giants.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about empathy and the movie Coco. Then they answer emails about how to deal with the possibility of running into your toxic ex, staying social while living alone, and getting over a breakup with someone who wasn’t honest about their feelings. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:15 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

17:00 Email #1: How to deal with the possibility of running into your toxic ex

30:30 Email #2: Staying social while living alone

41:13 Email #3: Getting over a breakup with someone who wasn’t honest about their feelings

1:04:24 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_140__Oprah_Would_Be_An_Amazing_Surgeon.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about wearing dresses and being grateful. Then they answer listener emails about stopping harmful thoughts, how to not be a performative ally, changing meds, and friend breakups.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:02 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:41 Email #1: Stopping harmful thoughts (SN: suicide)

30:58 Email #2: How to not be a performative ally

48:40 Email #3: Changing meds, and friend breakups

1:05:10 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_139__Sob_Your_Way_To_Your_Therapist.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about appendicitis, treats, and doing all the things for self-care. Then they answer emails about creating art about your past, getting over a breakup, and what to do when you’re worried about being a bad manager.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:25 Opening Jibber Jabber

7:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

11:29 Email #1: Creating art about your past

25:18 Email #2: Getting over a breakup

36:23 Email #3: What to do when you’re worried about being a bad manager

47:56 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_138__I_Deserve_A_Treat.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, special guest co-host Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel) and Sally jibber jabber about pregnancy and Passover. Then they answer emails about dads and how to deal with with them they’re distant or difficult.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:33 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

23:00 Email #1: How to deal with a distant dad (CN: talk of disordered eating)

37:42 Email #2: How to deal with a difficult dad

59:30 Song of the Week (Molly's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_137__It_s_Dad_Week.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about boxing and smashing the patriarchy. Then they answer listener emails about your family not being supportive when you leave an abusive partner, and how to get over an amicable breakup when there's no spite to fuel your recovery.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:10 Opening Jibber Jabber

9:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

13:20 Email #1: When your family is not being supportive when you leave an abusive partner (CN: Emotional abuse)

32:02 Email #2: How to get over an amicable breakup when there's no spite to fuel your recovery (CN: Emotional abuse, sexual assault, self harm)

48:41 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_136__The_Carousel_of_Progress.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the Upper East Side and International Women’s day. Then they answer listener questions about making friends and being aromantic.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

12:49 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

21:03 Email #1: Making friends

27:27 Email #2: Making new friends after losing some

37:21 Email #3: Being aromantic

46:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_135__Asshole_Breakdown_Extravaganza.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally recap Katharine’s birthday and Sally’s first week at her new job. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with a disappointing parent, whether it’s time to leave your relationship, and binge eating.

Content note: Disordered eating is a topic on this week’s show.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:54 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:39 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:42 Email #1: Dealing with a disappointing parent

26:52 Email #2: Knowing when it's time to leave your relationship

42:12 Email #3: Binge eating (CN: disordered eating)

55:16 Song of the Week (Sally's pick) 

Direct download: Episode_134__This_Better_Be_Very_Important.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 9:08pm EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally do some venting and some celebrating about Kids These Days. Then they answer listener emails about dating and making friends. Finally, they discuss thirst vis-à-vis the United States Special Counsel, Robert Mueller, and his team of lawyers.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

19:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

26:28 Email #1: How to approach dating when maybe looking for something serious

47:48 Email #2: Making friends when staying home your thing

1:01:38 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_133__Thirsty_Alertsy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about birthday blues and unpacking the fuck out of stuff with the help of therapy. Then they answer a listener question about processing and recovering from grief after losing a pet and going through a tough breakup. Then they answer a question from a listener who wants to know if they’re unloveable. (Spoiler: they’re not!)

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:02 Opening Jibber Jabber

14:28 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:28 Email #1: Processing and recovering from grief after losing a pet and going through a tough breakup

29:59 Email #2: A listener wants to know if they’re unloveable. (Spoiler: they’re not!)

47:19 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_132__Oh_Canada.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Drapering, and why friends and therapists are so important. Then they answer listener emails about how to deal with being overwhelmed with work and life, and healing from past trauma in your current, healthier relationship.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:55 Opening Jibber Jabber 

18:02 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:55 Listener Feedback

25:25 Email #1: How to deal with being overwhelmed with work and life

38:56 Email #2: Healing from past trauma in your current, healthier relationship

1:00:33 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_131__Hot_Dads_of_Riverdale.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally Talk about being sick and polarizing tweets. Then they answer listener emails about a partner who isn’t living up to their potential and how to deal with a toxic parent.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:19 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: bodily fluids)

21:24 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:52 Email #1: What to do about a partner who isn’t living up to their potential

36:50 Email #2: How to deal with a toxic parent

53:43 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_130__Trifecta_of_Humiliation.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:29am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Riverdale and the Bourne movies. Then they answer listener emails about advice for supporting your partner when you both experience chronic mental illness, and how to deal when you have a therapist who’s…fine?, but not great.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:25 Opening Jibber Jabber 

11:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

15:32 Email #1: Advice for supporting your partner when you both experience chronic mental illness

26:45 Email #2: How to deal when you have a therapist who’s…fine?, but not great

49:27 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_129__The_Right_Tool_For_The_Job.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:04am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally get into some heavy jibber jabber. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide if you should quit college and what to do about a boyfriend who’s become an MRA. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:04 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Talk of sexual abuse, molestation, suicide, death)

18:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:16 Email #1: How to decide if you should quit college

35:50 Email #2: What to do about an boyfriend who’s become an MRA. 

59:53 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_128__We_Get_Heavy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber at length about all things #MeToo. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide whether to let go of a friendship and how to process/rebound from a shitty coming out experience.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:34 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Allegations of sexual abuse, sexual harassment, sexual assault, Aziz Ansari, Dan Harmon)

35:23 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

39:39 Email #1: Deciding whether to let go of a friendship

50:24 Email #2: How to process/rebound from a shitty coming out experience

1:00:53 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_127__This_Is_It_Guys_We_Did_It.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about rescheduling therapy and meditating in the bath. Then they answer listener emails about starting your own business, if/how to tell a friend you like them-like them, and how to handle betrayal and a breakup.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:38 Email #1: Starting your own business

34:38 Email #2: If/how to tell a friend you like them-like them

43:57 Email #3: How to handle betrayal and a breakup

57:50 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_126__Let_s_All_Cry_It_Out.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:30am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally discuss their holidays and the joy of doing nothing. Then they answer listener emails about having anxiety over making new friends, and when/how to tell a person you're in a new relationship with about your depression.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:00 Opening Jibber Jabber

13:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:02 Email #1: Dealing with anxiety over making new friends

31:25 Email #2: When/how to tell a person you're in a new relationship with about your depression

44:08 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_125__The_Two_Handed_Flip.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

Happy Holidays! Kate and Sally were unable to record this week, so we are re-releasing episode 28 from December 23rd 2015! On this episode, Kate and Sally suggest making a 5-year plan that starts with dumping your partner, the weird dynamic of men thinking you’re hitting on them when you’re super not, how to get through a tough break, and the hellishness that is dealing with a toxic family over the holidays.

Direct download: Episode_124__Blast_From_The_Past.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally discuss being sick and meditating on death. Then they answer listener emails about a friend in an abusive relationship, getting through the holidays while dealing with anxiety and depression, and moving in with a friend who you’re realizing is maybe racist.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:30 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:15 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:57 Email #1: What to do when a friend is in an abusive relationship

32:15 Email #2: Getting through the holidays while dealing with anxiety and depression

43:54 Email #3: moving in with a friend who you’re realizing is maybe racist

54:53 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_123__A_Dorgi_Named_Cider.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk for while about Lady Bird and audiobooks. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when it feels like the universe is ruining your life and how to handle a partner who’s not being awesome about your mental health needs.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:33 Opening Jibber Jabber

17:44 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

20:32 Email #1: What to do when it feels like the universe is ruining your life

30:52 Email #2: How to handle a partner who’s not being awesome about your mental health needs

48:43 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_122__Royals_Fever.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about solidarity square dancing and going to sleep. Then they answer listener emails about internalized homophobia, how to start over when you’ve lost everything, and tips for finding a new therapist.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:12 Opening Jibber Jabber

14:00 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:37 Email #1: Internalized homophobia

31:57 Email #2: How to start over when you’ve lost everything

39:55 Email #3: Tips for finding a new therapist

53:49 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_121__It_Was_Not_Chill.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about allyship and crying. Then they answer listener emails about how to deal with sexual harassment when you’re worried about retaliation, coming to terms with being single for a while, and feeling insecure about how your post-college life is going.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:30 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:03 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

21:26 Email #1: How to deal with sexual harassment when you’re worried about retaliation

35:43 Email #2: Coming to terms with being single for a while

47:05 Email #3: Feeling insecure about how your post-college life is going

1:03:17 Song of the Week (Katharine's pick)

Direct download: Episode_120__What_A_Week.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about Roy Moore, Louis CK, and their feelings and opinions about the news cycle of late. Then they answer listener emails about figuring out how to trust men and what to do when you hate your city and are feeling like you’re not yourself.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:45 - 27:57 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Talk about Louis CK, Roy Moore, allegations of sexual predation, molestation, pedophilia, sexual assault)

27:57 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

30:55 Email #1: Figuring out how to trust men

53:27 Email #2: What to do when you hate your city and are feeling like you’re not yourself

1:04:01 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_119__Distrust_of_Men_Sundae.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber extra long. Then they answer a listener email about what to do when your best friend starts dating an abusive ex.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:49 Opening Jibber Jabber

5:04 - 15:55 Opening Jibber Jabber continues with a CN: Allegations of sexual predation, emotional manipulation, the Texas shooting

21:35 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:27 Email: What to do when your best friend starts dating an abusive ex

52:10 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_118__Lots_Of_Feelings.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the recent Kevin Spacey allegations. Then they answer questions about working two part-time jobs, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and how to make friends with cool people online.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:00 Kate's Opening Jibber Jabber

6:58 Sally's Opening Jibber Jabber (Content Note: Discussion of allegations agains Kevin Spacey, Harvey Weinstein, sexual harassment and abuse)

21:42 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

24:11 Email #1: Working two part-time jobs

31:24 Email #2: Unhealthy coping mechanisms

44:30 Email #3: How to make friends with cool people online

54:20 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_117__No_Jacket_Required.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

This is a recording of The Struggle Bus LIVE with special guests Josh Gondelman, Mychal Denzel Smith, Molly Knefel and surprise guest, ADVICE GIVING PUPPET Carl Mudgeon! Recorded on Wednesday, October 25th at Union Hall, Brooklyn, NY. 

Special thanks to HangAndHold for donating gifts for our audience game! Find them on Etsy at HangAndHold and Instagram at @hangandhold. Hand-painted + handmade goods to hang on your wall or hold in your hand. Made with love in BK.

 

 

Direct download: Episode_116__Start_With_A_Snake_-_The_Struggle_Bus_LIVE.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:41pm EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about #metoo and talk about self-care. Then they answer listener emails about shitty men in the workplace, traveling with family you can’t deal with, and how to be a better ally as a white, cis, able-bodied person.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

14:18 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:15 Email #1: Shitty men in the workplace

29:40 Email #2: Traveling with family you can’t deal with

37:47 Email #3: How to be a better ally as a white, cis, able-bodied person

52:30 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_115__Bro_Bingo.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about Harvey Weinstein and talk about needing to fix their sleep problems. Then they answer questions about improv and learning how to trust, and what to do when your best friend seems to be distancing themselves from you.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:36 Opening Jibber Jabber

16:37 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:14 Email #1: Improv classes and learning how to trust

38:32 Email #2: What to do when your best friend seems to be distancing themselves from you

49:03 Song of the Week (Katharine's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_114__Trust_Muscle.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about toxic white masculinity and planetary influences. Then they answer questions about deepening friendships, making transition-related decisions, and processing toxic friend drama.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:21 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:04 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

17:29 Email #1: Deepening friendships and making transition-related decisions

33:37 Email #2: Processing toxic friend drama

47:14 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_113__Self-Criticism_Bender.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:03am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about doctors sometimes being great and guesting on other podcasts. Then they answer listener emails about getting back into dating, the agony of trying to land a job in your field, and anxiety about your parents being disappointed in your lifestyle.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

8:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

12:39 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

17:17 Email #1: Getting back into dating

26:13 Email #2: Trying to land a job in your field

44:12 Email #3: Parents being disappointed in your lifestyle

56:10 Song of the Week (Katharine's pick)

Direct download: Episode_112__Feminist_Baby.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally get a little enraged and then talk a bit about self-care. Then they read an email from a listener sharing insight about abusive relationships. Finally they answer listener emails about dealing with a shitty ex you have to see and how to know if you really want to end a relationship.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:06 Opening Jibber Jabber

13:25 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:38 Email from a listener with insight about abusive relationships

22:22 Email #1: Dealing with a shitty ex you have to see

41:45 Email #2: How to know if you really want to end a relationship

55:08 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_111__Rage_Is_A-OK.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally have a very exciting announcement! Then they jibber jabber, talk about self-care, and answer listener emails about dating someone in an open relationship, a toxic sibling, and how to deal when your meds make you feel great in some ways and not awesome in others.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

7:22 Opening Jibber Jabber

12:08 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

15:44 Email #1: Dating someone in an open relationship

26:36 Email #2: Having a toxic sibling

40:34 Email #3: How to deal when your meds make you feel great in some ways and not awesome in others

1:01:26: Song of the Week (Katharine’s pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_110__I_Like_Myself.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate gives an update about her recent doctor’s office catastrophe and Sally admits to not having anything to jibber jabber about. Then they answer listener emails about figuring out your life in the aftermath of losing a parent, and how to cope with being single after a breakup. Also, they discuss the early ’80’s looks of Madonna and Cyndi Lauper.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:25 Opening Jibber Jabber

8:47 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

12:00 Email #1: Figuring out your life in the aftermath of losing a parent

29:08 Email #2: Coping with being single after a breakup

48:54 Song of the Week (Katharine’s pick)

Direct download: Episode_109__For_A_Minute_There_I_Lost_Myself.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about going through hell to get birth control, and terrible people on Twitter. Then they answer listener emails about trying to figure out if your mom was emotionally abusive and what to do when your friends say mean stuff about your ex.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:01 Opening Jibber Jabber

27:03: A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

30:35 Email #1: Trying to figure out if your mom was emotionally abusive

47:46 Email #2: What to do when your friends say mean stuff about your ex

1:01:21 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick


On this episode Kate and Sally discuss Tina Fey and sheetcakegate. They then answer listener emails about dealing at work after you’ve reported someone to HR, how to respond when someone comes out to you, and what to do when it’s easy for you to maintain romantic relationships but not friendships.

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00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:11 Opening Jibber Jabber

20:47 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

30:05 Listener update!

30:57 Email #1: Dealing at work after you’ve reported someone to HR

45:25 Email #2: How to respond when someone comes out to you

56:14 Email #3: What to do when it’s easy for you to maintain romantic relationships but not friendships

1:13:00 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_107__Layer_Cake_of_Problems.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally reunite (via Skype) after three weeks apart. They talk about Charlottesville and its aftermath, and then answer listener emails about how to explain to people that you don’t talk to your parents, and whether it’s OK to share health information about someone if you think it’ll help them.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:00 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Talk of Charlottesville)

20:13 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care) (CN: Talk of Charlottesville)

28:13 Email #1: How to explain to people that you don’t talk to your parents

37:37 Email #2: Is it OK to share health information about someone if you think it’ll help them

46:48 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

 

Direct download: Episode_106__We_re_Back_And_We_Missed_You.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

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On this episode Kate and Sally talked about massage and meditation and then answer listener emails about how to break up with a friend and dealing with a crappy coming out experience.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

8:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

18:01 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:00 Email #1: How to break up with a friend

36:59 Email #2: Dealing with a crappy coming out experience

1:05:00 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_105__The_Love_Industrial_Complex.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about concussions and Game of Thrones. Then they answer listener emails about alleged abuse in activist communities and how to forgive yourself for mistreating an ex.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:37 Opening Jibber Jabber

21:38 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:03 Email #1: Alleged abuse in activist communities

44:42 Email #2: Forgiving yourself for mistreating an ex

1:04:00 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_104_Well_Well_Well.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally lean into jibber jabber after a week off. Then they answer listener emails about coming out when you’re in a heteronormative relationship, what to do when your therapist goes away, and deciding between careers in academia and social work.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:38 Opening Jibber Jabber 

9:56 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care) 

19:51 Email #1: Coming out when you’re in a heteronormative relationship

37:36 Email #2: What to do when your therapist goes away

48:44 Email #3: Deciding between careers in academia and social work

1:10:19 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

 

Direct download: Episode_103__Freudian_Slip__n_Slide.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about bedbugs and taking your own advice. Then they answer listener questions about what to do when your life is great on paper but you feel like you’re underachieving, balancing making art with making enough money to live on, and what to do when you’re worried a friendship is falling apart.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:14 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: bed bug talk)

15:00 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care) (CN: more bed bug talk)

19:35 Email #1: What to do when your life is great on paper but you feel like you’re underachieving

29:42 Email #2: Balancing making art with making enough money to live on

43:44 Email #3: When you’re worried a friendship is falling apart

59:40  Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_102__Everythings_Temporary.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how terrible the world is rn, and also Philip K. Dick. Then they answer emails about an emotionally abusive partner, deciding when to leave home when it might be better for your mental health, and tips for breaking into a new career (music and music production, in this case).

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:28 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:39 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:30 Email #1: What to do about an emotionally abusive partner

33:36 Email #2: Deciding when to leave home (especially if it might be better for your mental health)

45:30 Email #3: Tips for breaking into a new career

53:50 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_101__These_Broken_Wings.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally celebrate their ONE HUNDREDTH EPISODE by sharing some fun and meaningful memories of episodes past. They jibber jabber about the MTA and the anniversary of the Pulse nightclub shooting. Then they answer listener emails about being fat and body positive and working out, and learning more about intersectionality and self-care.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

11:33 Opening Jibber Jabber

19:03 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:10 Email #1: Being fat and body positive and working out

40:27 Email #2: Learning more about intersectionality and self-care

58:06 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_100__10000_Diamonds.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about getting married, breaking the world, and then fixing it. Then they answer listener emails about working on a relationship with a difficult parent and when the right time is to make a cross-country move.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:33 Opening Jibber Jabber

9:12 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

12:18 Email #1: Working on a relationship with a difficult parent

24:37 Email #2: Thinking about making a cross-country move

40:30 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_99__Threes_Company_Eleganza.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how sleep is wonderful, inside and out of blanket cocoons. Then they answer listener emails about being on a board of directors with ~complicated~ people and how to handle (and help your kids handle) the suicide of a friend. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:42 Opening Jibber Jabber

17:24 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

20:11 Email #1: Being on a board of directors with ~complicated~ people

43:40 Email #2: How to handle (and help your kids handle) the suicide of a friend

58:01 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_98__Casing_the_Joint.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about self-care in the form of meditation and writing strongly-worded letters. Then they answer listener emails about sexual abuse between children, living with an emotionally abuse parent when you’re an adult, and how to deal with having to work alongside a toxic ex-friend.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:29 Opening Jibber Jabber

9:19 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

14:11 Email #1: Sexual abuse between children

24:49 Email #2: Living with an emotionally abuse parent

40:35 Email #3: How to deal with having to work alongside a toxic ex-friend

55:34 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_97__Opportunity_to_Practice.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:54am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about two debuts: Katharine in New York Neo-Futurists and Sally on the Babes Watch Buffy podcast. Then they answer questions about how to chill with compulsive social media and app checking and how to cope with intense change in a relationship.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:45 Opening Jibber Jabber

19:22 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

24:04 Email #1: How to chill with checking social media

35:24 Email #2: Coping with intense change in a relationship

54:11 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_96__Is_That_All_There_Is_.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a pretty long time. Then they answer emails about negotiating cleanliness standards when you’re living with your partner and the pressure of being a perfect role model queer couple.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:23 Opening Jibber Jabber - Sally has some issues with signs, and Katharine is premiering with the New York Neo-Futurists

18:55 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

23:05 Email #1: Cleanliness when cohabitating with a partner

35:19 Email #2: Being a role model queer couple

57:30 Song Of The Week - Katharine's pick

Direct download: Episode_95__Katharine_Invented_Time_Stamps.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about sleeping, zoning out, and the Baby Worship Industrial Complex. They answer listener emails about dealing with men when you’ve had toxic ones in your past, dealing with a history of child sexual abuse by a sibling, and how to put content on the internet and deal with criticism.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus and we have some mic problems whilst talking about The Handmaid's Tale

5:28 MIC PROBLEMS ARE FIXED, Handmaid's Tale talk continued, and Opening Jibber Jabber

12:59 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

17:14 Email #1: How to move forward after painful experiences with men

42:30 Email #2: Navigating adult family dynamics after childhood sexual abuse from a sibling

1:00:12 Email #3: How to bare your soul on the internet

1:16:10 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick

Direct download: Episode_94__Sleepy_Weather.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk quite a bit about the death of pets. :( Then they answer questions about dealing with a partner who’s financially supporting their twin, feeling you have no friends, and having to spend a summer in the same town as your abusive ex partner.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:03 Opening Jibber Jabber: Kate has a story about storytelling, Sally has a book recommendation that may cause some pearl-clutching. Oh, and an important peanut butter announcement

14:05 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)

20:13 Email #1: What to do when your partner has not-so-healthy family ties

28:01 Email #2: New friend-circle woes

37:38 Email #3: Surviving a summer at home avoiding an abusive ex

51:43 Song Of The Week - Kate's pick

Direct download: Episode_93__Barren_Emotional_Hellscape.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally share rad updates about their own lives. Then they read listener emails about mental health issues in relationships, whether you can love someone else if you don't love yourself, and how to deal with toxic friends and whether it's ever OK to tell a friend how you really feel about their partner.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 
 
4:40 Opening Jibber Jabber: Kate's fly update (which includes the most beautiful prose about cluster flies ever written and an impromptu haiku), and don't worry, Sally is going to be OK (hint: melatonin and a new hairstylist)
 
10:48 A Thing We Did (for Self Care)
 
12:52 Listener feedback: A thank you from a listener
 
16:40 Email #1: Worrying about how to negotiate mental health issues in a romantic relationship
 
32:34 Email #2: Dealing with a challenging group of friends who don't like your partner (and are pretty vocal about it)
 
1:00:48 Song Of The Week - Sally's pick
Direct download: Episode_92__Tuck_and_Roll_Away_From_Your_Toxic_Friends.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about flies, magic, and video games. Then they answer listener emails about being a woman who works in tech bro hell, whether you should throw away an object that’s become problematic, and whether it’s a red flag that a hookup kinda maybe hid their age from you.

Direct download: Episode_91__Kates_Morning_Seduction_Voice_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:01am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about nightmares and sleep. Then they answer listener emails about white dudes trying to create safe space, identifying as a feminist as a trans man, dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault, helping too much, and depression and anxiety.

Direct download: Episode_90__Fount_of_Sagely_Wisdom.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about dudes who violate your personal space and drinking water as self-care. Then they answer listener emails about repairing a strained friendship, mental health-related money troubles, and how to deal when you learn of allegations about a guy you considered a hero.

Direct download: Episode_89__We_Almost_Sistine_Chapeled.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this special snowstorm episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about magicians, new iPhones, and phone dates with besties. Then they answer listener emails about toxic workplaces, reaching out to your biological dad’s family, and when’s a good time to go to therapy and open up the Pandora’s Box of ~feelings~.

Direct download: Episode_88__Don_t_Be_Afraid_of_Anger.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about male feminists and dealing with allegations of abuse in progressive communities. Then they answer emails about being a 30-something divorced woman and loving it, and what to do when you and your live-in partner might not be super compatible when it comes to household stuff.

Direct download: Episode_87__What_Sally_Said___What_Katharine_Said.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 1:10am EST

On this short episode Kate and Sally have a quick heads up to listeners, and then they jibber jabber about Kate’s childhood stardom, A Few Good Men (THE MOVIE), and answer a letter about dealing with moving stress and a short-term but still toxic work environment.

Direct download: Episode_86__This_Is_Norway.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:38am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about thigh-mashing, choosing self-care when you need a break from being political for just a hot second, and Garfield. Then they answer emails about coping with sexual assault and friends who aren’t supporting you, how to make a huge life decision that affects your whole family, and how to tell when it’s time to see a new therapist.

Direct download: Episode_85__Check_Your_Compass.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extra long time. Then they answer emails about how to figure out your next move when your art career doesn’t seem to pan out and what to do when an abusive ex is still in your group of friends.

Direct download: Episode_84__Countess_Katharine_and_Princess_Diamond.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about accidental and intentional self-care. Then they answer emails about how to advance professionally in an unfriendly workplace, what to do when you want your partner to be way more out, and how to deal with super obnoxious people on dating sites.

Direct download: Episode_83__Phone_a_Friend_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the state of the US right now and how to stay engaged while taking care of yourself. Then they answer emails about how to bring up ~sex stuff~ with a prospective partner, how to cope when the shit hits the fan all at once, and the best ways to support a loved one who miiiiight be struggling with how to reconcile their sexuality with their religion.

Direct download: Episode_82__Sinceriously.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:41am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about leveling up their self-care. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you find out that a friend is pretty much a creep and how to deal with the realization that you have codependent tendencies.

Direct download: Episode_81__Hierarchy_of_Creeps.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the weather and revisit the topic of couples massages. Then they answer listener emails about coming out as bisexual to your partner and dealing with self-destructive parents.

Direct download: Episode_80__The_Struggle_Bus_Backwards.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally are joined by the one and only Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel), co-host of awesome progressive political podcast Radio Dispatch. Kate, Sally, and Molly discuss couples massages, new year’s resolutions, and Sex and the City. Then they answer listener emails about dating while vegan and dealing with a rage-prone roommate.

Direct download: Episode_79__Bacon_Bros.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about sick beds and sick presents. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with gaslighting and manipulative people and how to cope with depression.

Direct download: Episode_78__50_50_Adorable_Terrifying.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Christmas trees and out of office days. Then they answer listener emails about trigger warnings, how to know if your therapist is on your political wavelength, starting meds, and possibly initiating a long distance relationship with a friend.

 
Direct download: Episode_77__Ghosting_But_Telling_You.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 4:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about amazing live performances and hot chocolate candles. Then they answer listener emails about marriage troubles and libido mismatch.

Direct download: Episode__76_RUFKM.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:23am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally debrief about how their Thanksgivings went. Then they answer listener emails about how to maybe cut off an emotionally abusive dad and keeping your morale up during an endless job search.

 
Direct download: Episode_75__Emotional_Backpocket.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 2:10am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk even more about talking about the election. Then they answer listener emails about how to handle spending the holidays with your family when you’re expecting some ~static~.

Direct download: Episode_74__We_Keep_Going.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 12:01am EST