The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Christmas and whether Santa Claus is real, and if so does he have a master key to your apartment? Then they talk about comedian Josh Gondelman’s (@joshgondelman) essay for The Cut about how being in a relationship means your partner’s enemies become your enemies. They also discuss Native comedian Joey Clift’s (@joeytainment) essay for the AV Club about confronting two white podcast hosts on air about tokenization (and much more). Finally they answer a listener email about how to talk to a parent who is skeptical of using meds long term for mental health.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:12 Opening Jibber Jabber

37:09 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

39:10 Email: How to talk to a parent who is skeptical of using meds long term for mental health

52:18 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_173__Mr._Children_2.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:26am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about some bad stuff on Twitter as well as some good stuff on Twitter. Then they discuss performative male anger, jogging, and getting new glasses. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who is trying to figure out how to navigate a relationship with a parent in the aftermath of trauma.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:26 Opening Jibber Jabber

34:33 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:36 Email: Figuring out how to navigate a relationship with a parent in the aftermath of trauma

54:34 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_172__Get_it_Together_Doug.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally don’t get to an email. But they DO talk about boomers and “cancel culture.” They talk about Schitt’s Creek, Succession, and how Katharine canceled two white boys on the subway. And much more!

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:22 Opening Jibber Jabber 

46:01 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

54:45 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_171__Kat_Harington.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how the 2020 election is a life ruiner. Then they discuss dancing with Sarah Michelle Gellar, going to the fucking dentist, and much more. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who wants to go to church without being reminded of their abusive ex. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:16 Opening Jibber Jabber (TW: 31:09 - 32:51 talk about sexual assault, Brock Turner)

32:54 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:35 Email: Wanting to go to church without being reminded of your abusive ex

50:02 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_170__Buffy_Summers_Vision_Board.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about impeachment, comedians who aren’t funny, the TV show GLOW, and hot water. Then they answer an email from a listener who is worried that the friend they’re in love with is ghosting them forever.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:12 Opening Jibber Jabber

33:17 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:35 Email: When a friend you're in love with might be ghosting you forever

57:23 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_169__A_Puppy_Eating_Spaghetti_With_an_Emu.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about comedians who think they’re pushing boundaries, Stranger Things, and how you’re not alone if Kavanaugh has you feeling stressedavanaugh. Then they answer a listener’s question about how to take care of yourself while being a good and effective social justice warrior. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:55 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: talk of Brett Kavanaugh)

22:29 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:20 Email: How to take care of yourself while being a good and effective social justice warrior

52:00 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_168__Gynecologist_Spaghetti_Western_Gun.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber a LOT. They talk about how spies are generally really hot and what it’s like to get a standing ovation from a dog. They also talk about therapy, easy breezy gratitude practices, and one-minute meditations. Then they answer an email from a listener who wants advice about how to deal with having a homophobic dad.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:26 Opening Jibber Jabber 

37:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

43:07 Email: How to deal with having a homophobic dad

57:38 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_167__Hot_Spies.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:06am EST

On this episode, Kate talks about raging in therapy and Sally talks about ruthlessly managing her social life. They talk in detail about the Al Franken story in the New Yorker and the very good reactions that it has spawned. Then they answer an email from a listener who is looking for advice on how to deal with their strained relationship with their dad.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:01 Opening Jibber Jabber

42:30 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

47:21 Email: Looking for advice on how to deal with a strained relationship with a parent

1:09:28 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_166__Know_Your_Seasons.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode, Kate tells a story about how sometimes you just need to hear the truth and Sally talks about being tested by god. They also talk about asking for help when you need it and doing housework as self-care. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who feels broke and broken and stuck in their job.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:40 Opening Jibber Jabber

26:06 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

29:13 Email: What to do when you feel broke and broken and stuck in a job

57:59 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_165__Not_Enough_Big_Cats.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about J*e B*den, the Tony Awards, and video games. Then they talk about taking Xanax to fly on airplanes. Finally, they answer a listener email about what to do when your job isn’t going well and is dragging you down in general.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:19 Opening Jibber Jabber

49:25 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

52:17 Email: What to do when your job isn’t going well and is dragging you down in general

1:11:56 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_164__Authentic_Nancy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:43am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Moby’s alleged creepiness as a person and also as an instagram user. Then they talk about Game of Thrones and shows about pets that are actually about humans. Finally they answer an email from someone who wants to know how to earn back their partner’s trust.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:07 Opening Jibber Jabber

42:19 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

43:22 Email: Earning back a partner’s trust

1:01:09 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_163__54_American_Years_Old.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 6:10am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about slaying childhood dragons, being a reactive fan of Game of Thrones, and the nest-building behaviors of house finches. Then they answer an email about whether to cut toxic friends out of your life.

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The Yellowhammer Fund

National Network of Abortion Funds

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Adam Carl’s FB Post (now on Medium)

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:07 Opening Jibber Jabber

41:52 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

44:33 Email: Whether to cut toxic friends out of your life

1:01:35 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

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Direct download: Episode_162__I_m_a_Full_Adult.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:27am EST

 

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Buffy and Game of Thrones fandom. Then they explain how to find a struggle buddy. Sally talks (at length) about being aggrieved by many people. Katharine explains the origin of #strugglepodbuds420. Then they…just keep jibber jabbering. This is the first episode to not feature a an email from a listener seeking advice.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

10:18 Opening Jibber Jabber

37:14 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

45:00 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

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Read The best $16 I ever spent: Old Navy pajamas after my husband left by Rachel W. Miller: www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/4/25/18512898/rachel-w-miller-best-money-old-navy-pajamas

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Direct download: Episode_161__Mercury_s_in_Mantrograde_1.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:15am EST

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about being tired, using earplugs, meeting celebs we admire, and canceling therapy. Then they answer listener emails about telling a crush you’re crushin’, whether you need to tell your parents everything, and what to do when the person who sexually assaulted you is dating someone else on campus who might now be in danger.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:22 Opening Jibber Jabber

16:00 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

21:55 Email #1: Telling a crush you’re crushin’ and whether you need to tell your parents everything

34:01 Email #2: What to do when the person who sexually assaulted you is dating someone else on campus who might now be in danger

54:48 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_160__Lost_in_the_Shuff.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:32am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Joe Biden’s creepy handsiness, Sally’s birthday, and Katharine’s upcoming show about how we participate in rape culture. Then they answer a letter from a listener writing in about their partner’s weight.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:34 Opening Jibber Jabber

31:43 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:06 Email: (CN: talk about weight, fat bodies, eating disorders) Someone who is upset about their partner’s weight gain

52:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_159__More_Like_No_Biden.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:22am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Theranos, the college admissions scam, the NPR podcast It’s Been a Minute, and the NY Neo-Futurists. They chat about face masks and to-do lists as self-care, and answer a listener email about giving an employer feedback as you’re leaving and how to deal with intrusive thoughts.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:59 Opening Jibber Jabber 

31:53 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

35:44 Email: Giving an employer feedback as you’re leaving and how to deal with intrusive thoughts

53:55 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_158__Learning_to_Learn.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about their new Patreon, the documentary Leaving Neverland, Luke Perry (RIP), birthdays, and going to the dentist. Then they answer an email from a listener who’s trying to figure out if they should stop going to therapy.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:02 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN 9:55 - 30:06 talk about the Michael Jackson documentary "Leaving Neverland")

34:50 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

37:37 Email: How to know if you should stop going to therapy

55:03 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_157__Tooth_Time_with_Katharine_and_Sally.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about “the magical thinking of guys who love logic” and Ryan Adams (and similar creeps). Then they talk about catching up on sleep and going to the dentist. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who’s trying to make a decision about having another kid. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:50 Opening Jibber Jabber

33:26 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

37:06 Email: Making a decision about having another kid

58:50 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_156__Kids_These_Days.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

 

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about white guys who taunt, Fyre Festival, Rent Live, flying, and coping with flying. Then they answer a listener email about how to let a former friend know they’re not invited to your wedding.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

25:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

31:32 Email: How to let a former friend know they’re not invited to your wedding

49:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_155__Antarctica_Iowa.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about millennial burnout, Louis CK et al, migraines, blood pressure, and going to the doctor. Then they answer a listener email about what to do when your loved one is dating someone you reallllly don’t like.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:20 Programming note! (CN from 1:20 - 5:20 talk about suicidal ideation and self harm)

5:29 Opening Jibber Jabber

30:22 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

33:13 Email: What to do when your loved one is dating someone you reallllly don’t like

56:11 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_154__Bring_in_a_Ringer.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EST

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