The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about separating artists from their art, a very smart and sassy parrot, and self-care in the form of stretching and kettlebells. Then they answer an email from a listener asking for advice on whether they should stop going to therapy.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:22 Opening Jibber Jabber

20:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

23:53 Email: Advice on stopping therapy

42:00 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_153__Dont_Worry_About_the_Wolf_in_The_Woods.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:18am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the happy/infuriating binary as it applies to Lena Dunham, Jason Momoa, and using polyamory to manipulate your partner. Then they jibber jabber about learning how to play guitar and setting boundaries with family. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who wants to know what to do about their 5-year relationship with a controlling S.O.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

32:45 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

36:05 Email: Being in a 5-year relationship with a controlling S.O.

48:54 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_152__Half-Inch_Bangs.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 10:47am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the holidays, Hot Duck, and video games. Then they read a listener email with very useful feedback and answer a listener email from someone who’s asking for advice coping with their suicidal thoughts.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:00 Opening Jibber Jabber

23:43 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:15 Listener feedback

32:57 Email: Coping with suicidal thoughts

52:08 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_151__Don_t_Feed_Hot_Duck.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:27am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extended period of time and talk about making doctor’s appointments and (not) working out. Then they answer a listener email about feeling abandoned when a therapist doesn’t come back from maternity leave.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:09 Opening Jibber Jabber

23:24 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

27:07 Email: Feeling abandoned when a therapist doesn’t come back from maternity leave

46:27 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_150__Showing_Up.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the NY Neo-Futurists, Anita Hill, and why we recommend therapy all the ding dang time. Then they answer questions about recovering from a breakup and an emotionally abusive relationship and how to deal with a parent who’s using drugs while feeling like you don’t have a home.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:04 Opening Jibber Jabber

16:37 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:58 Email #1: Recovering from a breakup and an emotionally abusive relationship

37:01 Email #2: How to deal with a parent who’s using drugs while feeling like you don’t have a home

51:10 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_149__The_Speakeasy_of_Podcasts.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about roller coasters, fruit, and dancing. Then they answer listener emails about how to open up to people and living with roommates who aren’t being good friends to you.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:54 Opening Jibber Jabber

18:59 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

30:06 Listener Feedback

33:51 Email #1: How to open up to people

53:23 Email #2: Living with roommates who aren’t being good friends to you

1:15:28 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_148__Don_t_Ride_the_Cyclone_Eat_Fruit_and_Dance.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the New York Neo-Futurists and lesbian fiction. Then they answer listener questions about breakups, feeling alone and isolated, and how to deal when you’re being bullied and/or feel left out.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:30 Opening Jibber Jabber

6:20 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

10:45 Email #1: Breakups

26:33 Email #2: Feeling alone and isolated

38:22 Email #3: How to deal when you’re being bullied and/or feel left out

58:23 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_147__Monster_Cereal.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:10am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a real nice long time. Then they answer listener emails about rebound dating, dealing with panic disorder, and whether to date a friend.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

13:12 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

19:53 Email #1: Rebound dating

36:49 Email #2: Dealing with panic disorder

1:00:52 Email #3: Whether to date a friend

1:15:58 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 


On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about all the TV and movies they’re watching. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you know you need to open up but feel like you can’t, and the ins and outs of coming out and labeling your sexuality.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:23 Opening Jibber Jabber

10:18  A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

15:26 Listener Update: How To Be A Good Manager (from episode 138)

17:51  Email #1: What to do when you know you need to open up but feel like you can’t

36:38 Email #2: The ins and outs of coming out and labeling your sexuality

55:36 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_145__Financial_Crisis_on_Mushrooms.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 2:48pm EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about phantom earthquakes. Then they answer listener questions about how to know when to bail on trying to make a relationship work, when to tell a new person about your trauma, and how to deal with feeling depressed while living with unsupportive parents.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

7:44 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

9:51  Email #1: How to know when to bail on trying to make a relationship work

26:35 Email #2: When to tell a new person about your trauma

34:13 Email #3: How to deal with feeling depressed while living with unsupportive parents

45:30 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_144__Mistake-Not_Mistake_Binary.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a while about misogyny (of course) and reaching out to friends. Then they answer listener questions about what to do when you feel totally stalled in your career and how to deal with a partner who won’t make time for you.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:20 Opening Jibber Jabber 

22:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:30 Listener feedback

31:24  Email #1: (CN: death of a pet) What to do when you feel totally stalled in your career

46:55 Email #2: How to deal with a partner who won’t make time for you

1:01:09 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_143__Beautiful_Sexy_and_Confident.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, special guest co-host Hilary Asare (@HilaryAsare) and Kate jibber jabber about readjusting sleep schedules and PTSD. Then they answer listener questions about going back to a job with an abusive boss, supporting loved ones without overstepping boundaries and/or getting anxious, and how to get excited for the future when high school sucks.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:52 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN/TW: from 4:35 - 12:56 talk of attack, physical damage, PTSD)

13:01 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:02 Email #1: (CN: abuse/sexual assault/asshole bosses) Going back to a job with an abusive/triggering boss

29:32 Email #2: Supporting loved ones without overstepping boundaries and/or getting anxious

38:52 Email #3: How to get excited for the future when high school sucks

58:50 Song of the Week (Hilary's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_142__Get_Comfortable_With_Being_Uncomfortable.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about what to do with trash men and Rachel Dolezal. Then they answer listener questions about how to break up with a partner and whether to intervene in a situation your partner is going through.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:47 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: at 14:02 talk of Jamie Kilstein)

23:25 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

28:05 Email #1: How to break up with a partner

40:50 Email #2: Whether to intervene in a situation your partner is going through

53:27 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_141__Standing_on_the_Shoulder_of_Giants.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about empathy and the movie Coco. Then they answer emails about how to deal with the possibility of running into your toxic ex, staying social while living alone, and getting over a breakup with someone who wasn’t honest about their feelings. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:05 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:15 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

17:00 Email #1: How to deal with the possibility of running into your toxic ex

30:30 Email #2: Staying social while living alone

41:13 Email #3: Getting over a breakup with someone who wasn’t honest about their feelings

1:04:24 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_140__Oprah_Would_Be_An_Amazing_Surgeon.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about wearing dresses and being grateful. Then they answer listener emails about stopping harmful thoughts, how to not be a performative ally, changing meds, and friend breakups.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:02 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

16:41 Email #1: Stopping harmful thoughts (SN: suicide)

30:58 Email #2: How to not be a performative ally

48:40 Email #3: Changing meds, and friend breakups

1:05:10 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_139__Sob_Your_Way_To_Your_Therapist.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about appendicitis, treats, and doing all the things for self-care. Then they answer emails about creating art about your past, getting over a breakup, and what to do when you’re worried about being a bad manager.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

1:25 Opening Jibber Jabber

7:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

11:29 Email #1: Creating art about your past

25:18 Email #2: Getting over a breakup

36:23 Email #3: What to do when you’re worried about being a bad manager

47:56 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_138__I_Deserve_A_Treat.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, special guest co-host Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel) and Sally jibber jabber about pregnancy and Passover. Then they answer emails about dads and how to deal with with them they’re distant or difficult.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:33 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

23:00 Email #1: How to deal with a distant dad (CN: talk of disordered eating)

37:42 Email #2: How to deal with a difficult dad

59:30 Song of the Week (Molly's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_137__It_s_Dad_Week.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about boxing and smashing the patriarchy. Then they answer listener emails about your family not being supportive when you leave an abusive partner, and how to get over an amicable breakup when there's no spite to fuel your recovery.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:10 Opening Jibber Jabber

9:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

13:20 Email #1: When your family is not being supportive when you leave an abusive partner (CN: Emotional abuse)

32:02 Email #2: How to get over an amicable breakup when there's no spite to fuel your recovery (CN: Emotional abuse, sexual assault, self harm)

48:41 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_136__The_Carousel_of_Progress.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the Upper East Side and International Women’s day. Then they answer listener questions about making friends and being aromantic.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

12:49 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

21:03 Email #1: Making friends

27:27 Email #2: Making new friends after losing some

37:21 Email #3: Being aromantic

46:20 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_135__Asshole_Breakdown_Extravaganza.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally recap Katharine’s birthday and Sally’s first week at her new job. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with a disappointing parent, whether it’s time to leave your relationship, and binge eating.

Content note: Disordered eating is a topic on this week’s show.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:54 Opening Jibber Jabber

11:39 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:42 Email #1: Dealing with a disappointing parent

26:52 Email #2: Knowing when it's time to leave your relationship

42:12 Email #3: Binge eating (CN: disordered eating)

55:16 Song of the Week (Sally's pick) 

Direct download: Episode_134__This_Better_Be_Very_Important.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 9:08pm EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally do some venting and some celebrating about Kids These Days. Then they answer listener emails about dating and making friends. Finally, they discuss thirst vis-à-vis the United States Special Counsel, Robert Mueller, and his team of lawyers.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:41 Opening Jibber Jabber

19:11 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

26:28 Email #1: How to approach dating when maybe looking for something serious

47:48 Email #2: Making friends when staying home your thing

1:01:38 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_133__Thirsty_Alertsy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about birthday blues and unpacking the fuck out of stuff with the help of therapy. Then they answer a listener question about processing and recovering from grief after losing a pet and going through a tough breakup. Then they answer a question from a listener who wants to know if they’re unloveable. (Spoiler: they’re not!)

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:02 Opening Jibber Jabber

14:28 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:28 Email #1: Processing and recovering from grief after losing a pet and going through a tough breakup

29:59 Email #2: A listener wants to know if they’re unloveable. (Spoiler: they’re not!)

47:19 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_132__Oh_Canada.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Drapering, and why friends and therapists are so important. Then they answer listener emails about how to deal with being overwhelmed with work and life, and healing from past trauma in your current, healthier relationship.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

6:55 Opening Jibber Jabber 

18:02 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:55 Listener Feedback

25:25 Email #1: How to deal with being overwhelmed with work and life

38:56 Email #2: Healing from past trauma in your current, healthier relationship

1:00:33 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

 

Direct download: Episode_131__Hot_Dads_of_Riverdale.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally Talk about being sick and polarizing tweets. Then they answer listener emails about a partner who isn’t living up to their potential and how to deal with a toxic parent.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:19 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: bodily fluids)

21:24 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:52 Email #1: What to do about a partner who isn’t living up to their potential

36:50 Email #2: How to deal with a toxic parent

53:43 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_130__Trifecta_of_Humiliation.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 11:29am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Riverdale and the Bourne movies. Then they answer listener emails about advice for supporting your partner when you both experience chronic mental illness, and how to deal when you have a therapist who’s…fine?, but not great.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

2:25 Opening Jibber Jabber 

11:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

15:32 Email #1: Advice for supporting your partner when you both experience chronic mental illness

26:45 Email #2: How to deal when you have a therapist who’s…fine?, but not great

49:27 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_129__The_Right_Tool_For_The_Job.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 8:04am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally get into some heavy jibber jabber. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide if you should quit college and what to do about a boyfriend who’s become an MRA. 

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

5:04 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Talk of sexual abuse, molestation, suicide, death)

18:40 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:16 Email #1: How to decide if you should quit college

35:50 Email #2: What to do about an boyfriend who’s become an MRA. 

59:53 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_128__We_Get_Heavy.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber at length about all things #MeToo. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide whether to let go of a friendship and how to process/rebound from a shitty coming out experience.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

3:34 Opening Jibber Jabber (CN: Allegations of sexual abuse, sexual harassment, sexual assault, Aziz Ansari, Dan Harmon)

35:23 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

39:39 Email #1: Deciding whether to let go of a friendship

50:24 Email #2: How to process/rebound from a shitty coming out experience

1:00:53 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_127__This_Is_It_Guys_We_Did_It.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about rescheduling therapy and meditating in the bath. Then they answer listener emails about starting your own business, if/how to tell a friend you like them-like them, and how to handle betrayal and a breakup.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:20 Opening Jibber Jabber

15:58 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

18:38 Email #1: Starting your own business

34:38 Email #2: If/how to tell a friend you like them-like them

43:57 Email #3: How to handle betrayal and a breakup

57:50 Song of the Week (Sally's pick)

Direct download: Episode_126__Let_s_All_Cry_It_Out.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 7:30am EDT

On this episode, Kate and Sally discuss their holidays and the joy of doing nothing. Then they answer listener emails about having anxiety over making new friends, and when/how to tell a person you're in a new relationship with about your depression.

00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus

4:00 Opening Jibber Jabber

13:32 A Thing We Did (for Self-Care)

22:02 Email #1: Dealing with anxiety over making new friends

31:25 Email #2: When/how to tell a person you're in a new relationship with about your depression

44:08 Song of the Week (Kate's pick)

Direct download: Episode_125__The_Two_Handed_Flip.mp3
Category:Mental Health -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

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