The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff

In this episode Kate and Sally suggest making a 5-year plan that starts with dumping your partner, the weird dynamic of men thinking you’re hitting on them when you’re super not, how to get through a tough break, and the hellishness that is dealing with a toxic family over the holidays.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 11:03am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about dealing with the ghosts of emotional vampires past, how to deal when you’re feeling alone and miserable in your current environment, and attending events where someone who abused you will also be present.

Have a question? Tweet at Kate and Sally or the podcast! Plus, find a “Struggle Buddy” on Twitter at #StrugglePodBuds420.

Theme song by Marty Scanlon!

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:55am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally make a very special announcement about The Struggle Bus. They then answer listener emails about dealing with colleagues who are monsters, parents who aren’t accepting, and how to make tricky career decisions. Then they rant about self-care during the holidays. For a while. 

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 10:24am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally introduce a new recommendation segment. (Please help them name it!) They then answer emails about choosing between the security of a job you hate and the riskiness of pursuing your dream, dealing with preachy mansplainers, and coming out to your parents.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 10:21am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about Friday Night Lights. Extensively. They then answer emails about open marriages, pursuing “taboo" sexual attractions, and coming out to friends about being depressed.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 2:09pm EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about how gratitude is important but is also hippie garbage. They then answer an email from a listener who is wondering how to start coming out as genderqueer in their conservative environment. They then discuss an email from a queer high school student who wants help with social anxiety as well as learning to be vulnerable. Finally they answer an email from someone who needs advice on working a service job that is emotionally and physically exhausting without being too tired or miserable to function.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 10:37am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally give advice to a listener who suffers from panic attacks and needs help figuring out how to deal until they can get to a counselor. Then they answer an email from a listener who is a high-functioning schizophrenic struggling with whether or not she should have kids. Finally they respond to an email from someone who needs advice about how to help (without enabling) a friend who's addicted to heroin.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 10:35am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally answer an email from a listener who recently suffered a bummer of a romantic heartbreak and is wondering how to make sense of it. Then they discuss an email from someone who is worried about being able to maintain friendships with people once they start having kids. Finally they talk about about sexuality, choices, feelings, and labeling because duh.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 11:48am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally answer an email from a listener who wants some advice on how to deal when people constantly mislabel their sexuality. Then they respond to a listener who’s weighing the pros and cons of entering a 12-step program for their maybe alcoholism. Finally they discuss an email from a listener who has a bunch of anxiety and a super volatile partner.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:23am EDT

Episode 19: Taking It An Hour At A Time

In this episode Kate shares some mental health updates and Sally responds to a listener’s email about queer allyship. Then they answer an email from someone who needs advice on how to deal with life stuff while also being overwhelmed by life stuff, including coming out. They then read an email from a person who feels guilty about putting her own needs before those of her friends. Finally, someone writes in with a serious dilemma about joining the army.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 11:10pm EDT

In this extra long episode Sally rants her face off about marriage equality and intersectionality. Then Kate tells a story about dealing about a restaurant guest who customersplained why she was undertipping. They then answer listener emails about: how to come out as autistic when you’re self-diagnosed, if there’s such a thing as taking it "too personally” when you’re dealing with prejudice, and how to get back into dating after medical complications following gender confirmation surgery.
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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 12:04am EDT

Episode 17: Online Dating Profiles, DWIs, and #Veganproblems

In this episode Kate’s and Sally answer an email from a listener who needs help with his OkCupid profile, from the conceptualizing to the writing. They then discuss an email from a listener who is dealing with guilt and self-loathing after getting a DWI. Finally they answer an email from a vegan listener who wants to know how to cope with her rage with respect to a meat-eating, animal-hunting coworker. Bonus: Lots of fun pseudonyms this week!

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 8:37am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally read an update from a listener about her limp handshake and the mainsplainer who mansplained it to her. Then they answer emails asking about trigger warnings, sexuality stuff, what to do when the going gets very rough, and when (if ever) you should share your best practices for dealing with chronic ailments with fellow sufferers (vs. when you should just MYOB). This week’s outro song is provided by TSB listener Augusta.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:43am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss all different kinds of coming out, answering emails from: a married man who cross dresses and wants his partner to understand who he is, a semi-closeted lesbian living in a conservative, religious community, and someone  wondering when the right time is to tell someone you’re dating about a mental health diagnosis.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 5:51am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss a listener’s question about how she dealt with a mansplainer. They then help a lost listener understand how to rethink his approach to talking to women. Finally they give a listener strong opinions about her long term relationship and masturbation. (And other stuff.)

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 7:54am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about loss, grief, and migraines and then answer an email from a listener about being a senior in high school dealing with…all kinds of stressful life stuff. They then respond to a listener who wants some advice about the nightmarish hellscape that is online dating, and finally, they answer an email from someone who is kicking ass careeer-wise but can’t seem to find an awesome, together partner.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:05am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about those rare beautiful moments when you realize everything is (sort of) okay (for now). Then they answer a listener email about dealing with an ~intense~ mom when a history of disordered eating is in the mix. Next up, they discuss an email from a listener about how to get (consensually) weird (in a queer way) when you’re assumed to be straight. Finally, they try to help a listener untangle a complicated sibling situation.

AND THE BEST NEWS EVER The Struggle Bus is a Spotify playlist! 

Have a question? Tweet at Kate and Sally or the podcast! Plus, find a “Struggle Buddy” on Twitter at #StrugglePodBuds420.

Theme song by Marty Scanlon!

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 8:23am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about why rainy days are the best days and how taking a break from therapy is the ultimate self-care. They answer listener emails about making friends when you’re socially awkward, dealing with people when you hate all people, and how to cope with emotionally abusive family members without abandoning your siblings. Oh, and enjoy the non-denominational Easter egg at this episode’s conclusion!

Have a question? Tweet at Kate and Sally or The Podcast! Plus, find a “Struggle Buddy” on Twitter at #StrugglePodBuds420.

 

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 12:25am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally catch you up on their lives, from how charming and wonderful Norm Lewis is to friend breakups that suck. They discuss emails from a couple of listeners, including one who has figured out the perfect way to trick aggressive bros out of leaving you alone in a bar. (Hint: It involves using heteronormativity as a weapon...in a subversive way.) They then answer a listener’s question about healthy relationships and how to, like, have one? (Spoiler: We can only guess.)

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:08pm EDT

In this episode: Kate and Sally read some incredible iTunes reviews, unveil a brilliant new way to incorporate your questions into the show, and get excited about Norm Lewis. They then read a letter from a listener who wants advice on how to deal with sharing a college campus with a stalker/bully from her past. Then Kate and Sally wax rambly about therapy—what it's like, what you can expect, how you know you have a good therapist, and much more. 

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 9:11am EDT

In this episode Kate and Sally share some recent health scares (everyone’s fine!) in their lives and their feelings about how complicated relationships become when one partner cares for the other. They then discuss a listener’s letter about being stressed out social worker who is six months pregnant and is dealing with a sex drive that’s bumming her out. Finally, they resurrect (yet again!) the conversation about identity and sexuality and the elasticity of the labels we use.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 10:07am EDT

In this episode: The Zin is in and the shoes are off (literally). Sally talks about her first ever Christmas and Kate's eventful (not in a good way) New Year's Eve. Next up, Kate and Sally respond to a young single parent who wants to explore a new career but is wondering if it’s too late (spoiler alert: it’s not) and whether it's good parenting to do so (spoiler alert: it is, and we explain why). Finally we respond to an email from a listener in Utah who wants to know what the hell is up with her feelings of jealousy and control in her otherwise open, trusting, and communicative relationship.

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Category:Self-Help -- posted at: 8:09am EDT

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